Deciding what you want…when you don’t know what you want

The dreadful question: where do you want to be in five years? Where do you want to be in ten years?

Uh, what if you don’t know? I guarantee you that five years ago, I wasn’t planning on being married by now, but you know what? Five years ago I wasn’t the same person! I may not be the same person five years from now, so how can I possibly decide where I want to be in five years?

Instead, I ask myself “What do I want to do now?”


What if you’re still not sure? Do you want to travel? Stability? A dream career? A family? Make a list of possibilities.

Then I realized that it’s ok to want more than one thing. I may want to travel for awhile, then settle down and live in the same place for awhile. I might want to move around and try new things.

Instead of stressing over being indecisive, why not accept that desires change and your best lifestyle will change too? See the forest instead of the trees. Obviously, I want to be location independent, whether that means traveling or staying put. I want to set my own hours so I can work if I want and also pursue other interests. Hooray! Now I know what I want!

Seriously, this is one of the hardest decisions, but indecision is decision. If you don’t know what you want, it’s a sign to try new things. If you feel stuck, get out of it and try something else.

Now, dear reader, what do you want?


Posted on September 16, 2010, in Authenticity, Goals, Happiness and tagged , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.

  1. I love this post! You captured the frustration of that feeling when someone asks that question.

    Your conclusion of remaining open reminds me of one of my favorite blog posts by miss minimalist:

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