Monthly Archives: July 2011
I’d wager that most of us feel a certain amount of dissatisfaction with our lives. We’d like to do more, have more, or be more. Is this an unhealthy attitude? Sometimes yes, but we’re not talking about the “You can never be too rich or too thin” attitude here. This is about striving to become a better version of yourself, to fully embody your purpose and passion and creating a life that feels completely free and authentic to you.
So, what do you want?
A career? A love affair? Better health? Social connection?
Are you getting it?
I want you to sit for a minute and really envision what you want. Picture it. Your career is thriving, it doesn’t feel like work. Your body is healthy and strong. You’re sharing a special moment with that special someone, or you feel like a valued part of a circle of friends. What does that vision look like? What does it feel like?
I’ve found that in order to reach a goal, we have to really understand what we’re striving for. We have to have a completely clear vision of what we want, or we spend a lot of time wandering in circles and wondering why we’re not getting anywhere.
I say we spend a lot of time instead of we waste a lot of time, because that time spent wandering is important. That’s where we make discoveries, and often when we discover that we aren’t clear on what we want after all.
So now it’s time to get clear. How? This process works differently for everyone, but it includes two parts: Pondering and Mapping
1-Pondering is just what it sounds like. Think about what you want. Picture it. Read. Gather ideas. Allow yourself to fantasize, and feel what it feels like to have what you want. I like to do this on long walks, but do whatever works best for you.
2-Mapping is different for everyone, but this is the act of getting your visions into something tangible. For me, I like to actually sit and free write and make lists. You can draw your vision, or make a collage or vision board. Make a Handprint List. The point is to get it out where you can see it or read it with your physical eyes. Most of us are sight-driven, and having something we can read or look at constantly reminds us where we’re going, and from then on we can begin the work of getting there.
Getting clear is the first step to getting what you want and something you may have to keep doing throughout your journey. Think of your desire as a block of wood or stone that you keep chipping away at until you free the sculpture within. It might take awhile, but the end result is stunning.
Good morning all you beautiful, unique handprint souls! As part of my Big Scary Monster Series, I’m honored to present to you this amazing guest post from my dear friend Val from Balancing Val. Enjoy!
From a young age, I have always been a bit weird about the green stuff.
Whenever I had any, I saved it. Whenever I spent money on myself, I felt
guilty. I always had this overwhelming belief that I needed to save as
much as I can in case something bad happened. Over the years this belief
developed into a full blown fear. I’m not even sure how this all happened
seeing as how my family always had enough and us 4 kids had a great
childhood, but it did.
As I got older and had my first jobs and bills, things got even more out of
control by staying too IN control if that makes sense.
Sure, there were positives to it. I developed amazing credit at an earlyage and everything was payed on time. But the negative was that I really ONLY spent money on necessities. The rare times that I would spend on myself for pleasure sent me into a vicious cycle of guilt that had me scrimping up the pieces all over again in an uncomfortable restrictive state.
For this reason, it was hard for me to stand up for myself when it came to
taking jobs I didnt really want. Sure, the safest jobs paid the bills and
let me be financially stable, but its not good to be mentally
unstable at a job that isnt nourishing your core. Last year I
decided to take a leap of faith, follow my true passion and go to culinary
school in NYC to become a natural foods chef. Of the many fears that arose, you better believe that money was the scariest. This is the first time in my life
where the future is not certian. The first time in my life where I must
depend on ME and my own dreams to pay a large sum of money
that I borrowed to afford me this opportunity.
The combination of this all prompted me to start scrimping, and come up with a plan so I can save enough for when that “bad” thing happens. In my new found
confidence that came with following my passion, I realized that I couldnt
continue being so scared and something had to change.
So, I started exploring my fear by digging down in the depths of
uncomfortable beliefs and found that I treat money the way I treat myself.
- I never feel like I am enough
- I need to hide my purpose/gifts in case I fail
- I am insecure
As I work on these beliefs, I am noticing that fears are slowly taking a
better turn. I am worrying less about the future and I
now only spend money on what I believe in. I have a crazy exciting
road ahead of me and the only way to make it easier is if I start truly
embracing the things that hold me back, even if its a big scary monster.
Thanks so much Val! Don’t forget to submit your posts for the Big Scary Monster series, link to posts on your own blog or leave your thoughts in the comments! I’ll include links to all submissions in a roundup post at the end of each month for the duration of the series.
Hope you have a wonderful 4th today, whether you’re American or not!
I’ll be back on Wednesday with an amazing guest post for the Big Scary Monster Series!
On Monday, my American readers and I will celebrate the birth and independence of our wonderful country and thereby, our freedom.
Today (or pick another day) I’d like you to celebrate your own freedom and independence.
What have you freed yourself from? What independence will you celebrate?
Bad self-talk or thoughts?
A harmful relationship?
A job that didn’t/doesn’t suit you?
Or maybe today you’ll begin a journey to seek your independence from something that doesn’t serve you. Whatever it is, acknowledge it, seek support, give yourself a hug, and pass through it. Feel your freedom and celebrate it.
I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend!