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Saturday Links I Love and a Vacation

Good morning everyone. Before we get on with this week’s links, I’d just like to announce that I’m taking a 2-week blogging hiatus for an upcoming vacation (yay!) and just to have some time to do some work on the site. I’ll be back on July 25t!

Here are this week’s awesome linky links:

If you, like me, feel like you have too many interests and a lack of focus, go check out Scanner Tribe for awesome advice about how to rock our special personality type. I can’t wait to explore this site more!

I fell in love with the playful, joyous message of Heartmade, an awesome creative blog and coaching business.

Also love Life is Limitless

…and Dirty Footprints Studio

…and Jamie Ridler Studios. I could just sit and look at the header. Lots of being inspired by other creative souls this week.

And finally, my beautiful blogging buddy Val of Balancing Val is hosting this month’s Self-Discovery Word-by-Word! Her word is Beauty. I love it!

(For my past word-by-word submissions, click here, here and here)

I might even pop in from my blogging hiatus  to post my submission, I don’t want to miss this one!

See you in two weeks!

PS: I’m still accepting submissions for the Big Scary Monster series! Check out Val’s guest post this week!

Big Scary Monster Series: The Fear of our own Potential

"Mental Claustrophobia" sculpture by McKella Sawyer, 1,000 fabric swatches and insecurities

Let’s start off with this pearl of wisdom:

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”


Marianne Williamson (emphasis my own)

I think one of the saddest things in the world is to see potential go to waste.  We all have missions in life, gifts we have to offer the world, but many of us shrink back instead of rising to the calling.

Why?

Well, we’re scared. Scared that we won’t make it, that no one wants what we have to give, that we have nothing original to offer, or we’re just afraid of taking the risks that come with being great.

On the other hand, a lot of us are unconsciously terrified of actually succeeding. We’re afraid to be seen, or to have the openness required to become truly inspiring. We’re afraid that by breaking social norms or class restrictions that we’re “getting above ourselves”, somehow betraying our own.

In our society with it’s Puritanical ethics, we feel that acknowledging our gifts and potential, we’re being prideful or that by taking the time to develop those gifts, we’re being selfish. We’re making others uncomfortable. We feel that by stepping into our greatness, we are somehow wrong.

No wonder we’re so terrified of our own light.

And it’s totally ok to be  afraid. Give your big scary monster a hug and tell him this:

  • It is my responsibility as a human being to share my light with the world.
  • Taking the time and space to develop my gifts and realize my purpose isn’t selfish. Not reaching out to those who need me, hiding my gifts, not leaving my handprint on this world…now that would be selfish.
  • Pride and confidence in my abilities are not the same thing.
  • Everyone has a purpose, and so do I.
  • I can succeed. I will succeed.
Yes, you will.
PS: Don’t forget to submit your posts for the Big Scary Monster series! The goal of this series is to talk about and face our Big Scary Monsters and ultimately make friends with them, because monsters need friends too. 
You can email them to me to be featured on Handprint Soul, write them on your own blog and send me the link, or simply leave your thoughts in the comments. I’ll include links to all submissions in a roundup post at the end of the month. Thanks!

How to Befriend Your Big Scary Monster (And Get Past Him)

So I thought I’d kick off the Big Scary Monster series with some tips on how to actually make friends with our big scary fears.  Embracing our fear can seem like a weird thing to do, because aren’t fears something to be conquered? 

Remember, fear is how our minds protect us from things that could potentially hurt us. What would happen if we weren’t afraid of anything? We wouldn’t last long, that’s for sure. We’d all be jumping off cliffs and quitting our day jobs before we even have a business plan or a book proposal.

On the other hands, my favorite quote about fear says it all:

“Fear is just excitement with the brakes on.” –Jessica Mullen 

We feel fear when we’re about to do something amazing, but potentially unsafe, stepping into the unknown. Whether we’re launching a new business, sending our creations into the world to be looked at, trying a new dance class or just learning to feel our emotions without eating them, we feel fear because we’re moving into an unknown space, and our Big Scary Monster is there to protect us.

Here’s a few tips for giving that monster a big hug and then passing through him:

  • Recognize your monster: Understand that he’s only there to take care of you. Thank him for doing so and move on.
  • Ask him what he’s protecting you from: Vulnerability, rejection, physical injury, uncomfortable emotions. What are you really afraid of? Of marketing your jewelry line, or of opening yourself to rejection?
  • Develop a solid base of self-love: Though this can take years, I find that it’s the best cushion for taking a big leap. If you fail, do something stupid, totally screw up, you still love yourself and know of your own worth, whether your book gets published or not, whether you stuff down your emotions with a package of Oreos or not. Give yourself a hug and know you’re ok.
  • Baby steps: Instead of showing your monster who’s boss and launching a massive marketing campaign for your knitwear line in one day, take baby steps. Create a blog or webpage. Set up a Twitter or Facebook account. Get on Etsy. No need to do all that in one day and then travel the country promoting yourself, just stretch a little here and there until the previously unknown becomes familiar territory.
I hope this helps you befriend your Monster. It helps me, and I’ve been experiencing A LOT of fear lately as I’m reconnecting with my creativity and progress in the early planning stages of my creative business.
On that cliffhanger, I leave you to enjoy the rest of your Friday…mwahaha.
Cyber love.
McKella
PS: Don’t forget to submit your posts for the Big Scary Monster series! You can email them to me to be featured on Handprint Soul, write them on your own blog and send me the link, or simply leave your thoughts in the comments. I’ll include links to all submissions in a roundup post at the end of the month. Thanks!